With Thanksgiving only one week away, it’s time to let the Turkey Day countdown begin. Not only will you soon be shamelessly stuffing yourself with mashed potatoes, poultry and stuffing (appropriately so), but you’ll also be sitting across the table from family and friends, many of which you haven’t seen in a while. As you prepare to pack your bags and head home, an important question lingers: is it too soon to bring your boyfriend into the perfect chaos that is your family’s traditional Thanksgiving?

It’s a timeless and recurring holiday predicament. Year after year, couples around the world face the same quandary over whether to bring (or subject) their better half to Thanksgiving with the fam. Fortunately, we’re here to help. If you’re considering bringing your significant other home with you this Thanksgiving there are a few things to consider first.

It might be too soon to bring your boyfriend home for Thanksgiving if …

You’re not that serious.

You’re paying him to come home with you. (Never a good look, actually.)

You’re not proud to show him off to your family.

He’s not comfortable meeting the whole family at once. (‘Cause that’s happening.)

He often makes inappropriate racial, ethnic, socioeconomic, etc. jokes “just to see how people will react.”

You can’t pronounce his last name.

Your mom is still talking about your ex. (Also: He doesn’t know about your ex.)

He’ll never understand your family’s obsession with Mannheim Steamroller.

He is a reigning Top Chef winner looking to overhaul an underperforming kitchen. Awkward.