First dates are awkward.

Or, at least they can be – depending on who you’re with and what you’re doing. And unless you’re one of those rare people who find themselves on a creative, outside-of-the-box date (don’t hold your breath), you’ll most likely end up on a nice default dinner date. Le sigh.

It all sounds easy enough, but according to the 2014 State of Dating in America report, commissioned by JDate and Christian Mingle, 12 percent of men admit they would actually break up with someone who “preferred different foods.” The survey asked 2,647 respondents about their dating habits, first date turn-offs and of course, food faux pas.

So in case you’ve ever wondered Is it okay to tell him/her that there’s lettuce stuck in their teeth? we’ve got you covered. According to singles in America, these are the six common expectations for eating and drinking on a first date dinner.